I am a great believer in the concept of you meet the people you’re supposed to meet, go the places you’re supposed to go and hear the words and messages you need to hear and know.
Recently I was watching Oprah’s Super Soul Sundayon the OWN Network. She was interviewing New York Times best-selling author Caroline Myss.
It is no coincidence I heard their particular conversation on this particular day. I needed to hear these words. I needed to rewind my DVR, and listen carefully to the dialogue over and over again, and write it down. I feel compelled to share Caroline’s thoughts here with you as we have all felt let down and sometimes devastated by not getting something we want or think we deserve.
This happens to me all the time working as a model and TV personality. I am up for so many jobs I really, really want and don’t get. I’ve also been in relationships I really wanted to work out, only to be left broken-hearted.
I used to ruminate and obsess over why I didn’t get the job I wanted, why the guy didn’t love me, why some people with way less experience seemed to get my dream jobs so easily. I had a hard time accepting, “It wasn’t meant to be.”
Then I heard the words below (as said to Oprah Winfrey by Caroline Myss in an interview) that changed my life, and gave me a whole new and improved perspective.
My wish is that these words resonate with you the way they have with me, and help you let go and heal.
“You had your life focused on something that didn’t belong to you, and a path that didn’t belong to you. You locked in on something that did not belong you, someone that didn’t belong to you. You didn’t let go of a yesterday that didn’t belong to you. You hung on to a rage that did belong to you, and you wouldn’t let it go. You lost track of being here.
By not giving you what you want, He’s protected you from the worst of you, and given you the best of you.
To bring in your desired newness, you must first allow old parts of your life to fall away. These changes are to be celebrated, not feared.
Give thanks for this shedding of the old!
Embrace all of the lessons it brought, and then let it go!
Be giddy with excitement at the newness of the gifts that are now being bestowed upon you, and let their magic surprise and delight you.”
I believe everything happens FOR us. Trust and have faith you are being guided to the best circumstances for you, even if it doesn’t feel like it at the time. The trick is to be still (I do this through meditation), listen, let go of your worrisome thoughts and relax, knowing you are on the right path.
Try to stay focused on what you can control—your thoughts. Connect back to your own inner wisdom and intuition. This could also be what many refer to as their gut reaction. Your fear-based ego might say, “You lost your job, what are you going to do about money, you aren’t going to be able to pay your bills, and you’ll be out on the street.” Yikes, that feels icky.
Your intuition, Higher Self, gut, whatever you want to call it, knows you are going to be ok if you lose your job. Your inner wisdom knows that something much bigger and better and more suitable for you is just around the corner, and if you stay true to yourself and values, you will get it. You don’t need to settle.
While I have struggled for years with overcoming fearful thoughts and battling anxiety, I’ve discovered that what scared me the most (not being good enough) has been my greatest opportunity for deep healing and personal growth. When I don’t get the job, relationship or other things I want now, I trust that I am on the right path, and what’s best for me is on its way!
Give thanks. Embrace the lessons you learned. Celebrate the new.
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