If your boyfriend has just proposed, you are probably in a state of shock. Did he really just ask you to marry him? (If he got down on one knee, then yes, he did!) If you have just agreed to marry the love of your life, congratulations are in order.
You are most probably over the moon that he finally asked you to be his wife. You might think that because you’ve been a bridesmaid at lots of weddings, that you know everything about getting engaged. But, unless you’ve been engaged before, that’s not the case. There are some things, which unless you are engaged, you just don’t know about.
The proposal may not have been your fantasy… Let’s be honest about it, we all have those fantasy proposals in our heads. The ones where our boyfriend rides in on a big white horse like Prince Charming throwing rose petals; you get the idea. It’s important to realize that just because how your partner proposed wasn’t on par with your fantasy, it’s still just as romantic.
Whether he popped your ring in a glass of champagne or uttered those four little words while you were watching a movie, it doesn’t matter. He loves you enough to want you to be with him forever, how he asked you doesn’t matter. It’s the fact that he did, that counts.
You may not love the ring… Every girl’s worst nightmare is the man she loves proposing to her with a hideous ring. If he has chosen the wrong ring, this doesn’t mean your relationship is destined to fail. Or that you shouldn’t be together, it simply means that he got it wrong.
Don’t pretend that you like it if you don’t. Obviously, don’t say anything right away and ruin his proposal. Once he’s asked you to marry him and you have agreed, gently mention that while you are so happy being his fiancee, that you might prefer a different ring.
Tell him it’s a beautiful design, but that it’s just not very you. Explain you would love to shop together for a ring, such as one of these Verragio engagement rings. As long as you are kind about it and careful of what you say, he shouldn’t be too upset. And… if he’s upset; welcome to compromise and loving unconditionally for the rest of your life.
You’ll have to repeat your proposal story again and again… As soon as you announce your engagement, the first question you will be asked is how it happened. At first, you’ll love telling the story, but after a five or six times, you may start to get a little bored.
If you are announcing your engagement on social media, as well as in person, pop your engagement story up there. That way, everyone will know what happened, and you won’t need to retell the story quite so many times.
You’ll be inundated with questions about your big day… Before you’ve even had a chance to process the fact that you are engaged, you will be inundated with questions about your wedding. When will your wedding be? Who is going to be a bridesmaid? What food will you serve? Where will you host your celebrations?
Don’t let all the questions panic or rush you. No matter what you are asked, reply with something like, “We’re not sure what our plans are yet, we are just enjoying being engaged for now.”
There’s a lot more to getting engaged than agreeing to marry your partner and put on a pretty ring, and it’s important to realize that. Think of your engagement as the sacred time to learn to live for your spouse and live as one.
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