It’s so easy to get caught up in the “honeymoon” period at the beginning of a relationship. It just all feels so new and exciting. Then as time goes on, you become comfortable with one another. You don’t mind that he sees you in your sweat pants, or she sees you crying at a girly film. You go beyond that stage into the comfort zone, and this is where you get to a fork in the road. You can go one route where you stay together, accept the flaws, love the imperfections and just go with it. Or the comfort zone get’s too comfortable and you just want out. Sometimes we don’t reach this decision of staying or going until years into the relationship. You may even be married and have children. But we all get there at some point. Mostly this will be when perhaps your relationship is feeling a little rocky and unstable. So here are a few things you can consider to get your lives back on track.
Ask yourself the tough questions. Before you invest a lot of time into something you need to ask yourself a few tough questions. One of them being, is it worth it to continue? We believe till death do you part; however, you too have to believe that. I can not give a higher recommendation for a divorce attorney if that is the option you consider. In your heart of hearts, you will know the answer to these tough questions. You may find you are a little bit in denial about things but at some point, you will know what to do.
Communicate with your partner. Once you know you want to work on things, the next big thing to work on would be your communication. You need to talk openly about the things that are bothering you. You may not like what you hear, but this is where you have to swallow your pride and listen. It is the only way to move forward with things.
Date nights. Sometimes the problems lie in not spending enough quality time together so a date night can work wonders for a relationship. This is like going back to your dating days. So you dress up, you go somewhere nice, and you talk and laugh. Sometimes all it takes is for you to remember how you feel like a couple and not just individuals. If going out isn’t a problem then make an effort at home. Take it in turns to cooks and set the table. It can be the simplest of things but would help a relationship move forward.
Remember why you loved them in the first place. Finally, we can find ourselves being narrow minded at times. So remind yourself of the reasons why you love them in the first place. A bit of flirtation and little hugs and kisses can go far into showing someone how much you care and love them. Remind yourself of the good times; often when you are feeling low, it’s so easy to get trapped in the negativity. And most importantly, believe the following: marriage is not intended to make you happy; instead to make you holy.
Mia Guerra
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