Five Wrong Ideas about Christian Dating Spread on the Internet

Maintaining a Healthy Relationship When Dealing with Infertility-Chispa MagazineThe internet has been an absolute revolution and it is truly a source of knowledge like nothing else. Nonetheless, not everything you find on the internet is true or reliable, unfortunately, as it’s also filled with articles, stories, and guides that only serve to mislead you. When it comes to searching for information about Christian dating, the scenario is no different as there is a good number of confusing and ill-researched articles on the subject, that will land you into trouble if you are looking to date in the Christian way. To help you identify these false tips, here are five wrong pieces of information about Christian dating that have been circulating on the internet for too long.

You Should Wait for God to Find Your Spouse for You
A match made in heaven is, of course, the ideal scenario, but the approach is the most important aspect here. Asking for divine guidance to let you figure out whether the person you are dating currently is the right life-partner or not is one thing but depending on God to find and send your spouse to you is just lazy because God is probably busier than that! Go to an authentic Catholic online dating site to seek advice and guidance in regard to Christian dating. Go out and meet people who share your ideologies and the Lord will let you know when you have found the right partner for life. After all, God favors the ones who work hard for what they want.

A Match Made in Heaven is Always Perfect
It is never a bad idea to keep your common sense about you, irrespective of your faith. Two human beings staying together for a significant amount of time will have arguments and problems every now and then, which is perfectly normal. If you decide that something in your relationship is too much of an obstacle to cross and you end the relationship on account of that, it makes perfect sense. On the other hand, if you think that having arguments is a sign that the Lord wants you to separate from your partner, that is once again, ridiculous. If anything, God wants both of you to try harder to keep the relationship together… Ephesians 4:2-3, says, “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. 3. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.”

Change Your Church to Find a Spouse
Now, it isn’t uncommon for devout Catholics to meet their life-partners in a church—and it makes perfect sense too. However, if you decide to change your church in the hopes of finding a partner in another establishment, you are making a big mistake. The objective of going to church is to be close to God and communicate your respect and love for Him. While He might be present in every church at the same time for the true believers or in none of them for the ones with doubt in their mind, abandoning one of his establishments just to find a partner doesn’t seem right. There is no restriction for you to stay true to only one church, so feel free to visit new ones every now and then, but don’t completely abandon your old church in favor of selfish hopes.

Your Breakup is Part of the Plan
This one is partially true because your breakup could actually be a part of the plan that God has for you, but it is absolutely important that you take it like a learning experience to reflect upon and not as something that was never under your control but predetermined. The Lord is trying to teach you something through pain and unless you are open to that lesson, it is more likely that your future relationships won’t be very good either. Think about what went wrong and what were your faults. Once you have done that, you need to accept them and not repeat the same mistakes again in your future relationships. If you have had more than a few bad relationships, there is no reason to immediately jump to the conclusion that God doesn’t want you to marry either. The bottom line is that you should not be treating every one of your relationship woes as the Plan of God because He has better things to do than cause trouble in your love life! Seek His guidance, but don’t label him with human follies.

You Should Do What Your Parents Did
You should never marry or even date someone just because you have been single for too long or because you are getting older. If you don’t like a person but decide to stay with him just for the sake of being a couple, you are cheating yourself and, in many ways, that is similar to cheating God. If you are a devoted Christian, then you know the importance of staying true to the fundamentals of the religion and the dictates it has to guide us towards finding marital bliss. However, once you have accepted our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ in your heart, it is believed that your heart will guide you on the right path automatically. Therefore, following your heart is at times the same as following the words of God Himself. Nevertheless, as human beings, we are all subject to human follies. Strike a perfect balance by following your heart’s desires without overstepping the bounds of Christianity, and you will find peace, happiness and divine grace in doing so.

Faith is important for a Christian, but that faith also needs to be guided by common sense and intelligence, because, after all, it is intelligence that has brought the human race closest to the Father in Heaven, among all His creations. Do not be deceived by false ideas and misinterpreted religious dogmas. Consult your church for guidance if you are confused, but more importantly, ask for the right answers in your prayers and they will come to you in one form or the other.

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Mia Guerra

Mia Guerra

Executive Editor at Chispa Magazine
Executive Editor at Chispa Magazine, Mia Guerra is a writer at heart. Regardless the topic, she loves to investigate, encourage, and ruminate on topics that can make us better people. Aiming to live a Proverbs 31 life, Mia is ecstatic to be following her calling with Chispa. At home she is her husband's sidekick and together they are raising a God-fearing family in Atlanta.

Mia Guerra

Executive Editor at Chispa Magazine, Mia Guerra is a writer at heart. Regardless the topic, she loves to investigate, encourage, and ruminate on topics that can make us better people. Aiming to live a Proverbs 31 life, Mia is ecstatic to be following her calling with Chispa. At home she is her husband's sidekick and together they are raising a God-fearing family in Atlanta.