Valentine’s Day has been here and gone. Tradition called for the perfect romantic experience. In preparation you binged-watched Hallmark movies. Both you and your partner did your part to make that happen… the card, the flowers, the chocolates, and the dinner. Yes, it would be the perfect day.
Today you look back and wonder why perfect didn’t happen.
What I’ve learned… you can’t pour out from an empty love tank. You might respond with, “What do you mean? I love him.” Of course, you do. But, love—love is large—it’s made up of many elements. It’s kindness, affection, passion, patience, and so much more. In fact, here is some of what the Bible says about love:
“Love is large and incredibly patient. Love is gentle and consistently kind to all. It refuses to be jealous when blessing comes to someone else. Love does not brag about one’s achievements nor inflate its own importance. Love does not traffic in shame and disrespect, nor selfishly seek its own honor. Love is not easily irritated or quick to take offense. Love joyfully celebrates honesty and finds no delight in what is wrong. Love is a safe place of shelter, for it never stops believing the best for others. Love never takes failure as defeat, for it never gives up. Love never stops loving. It extends beyond the gift of prophecy, which eventually fades away. It is more enduring than tongues, which will one day fall silent. Love remains long after words of knowledge are forgotten.” -1 Corinthians 13:4-7 TPT
Perhaps your disappointment is much like the reading on the fuel gauge in your car—a sign that it’s time to invest in your relationship. While it does take two to make it all work, our responsibility is our responsibility. It may not even be about the two of you—perhaps you’ve forgotten about you, your self-care. That was my ah-ha early this year and I’ve since taken it as my personal goal for the year—taking better care of myself.
Whether you are in a relationship or not, love applies to you. We are called to love others as we love ourselves. Is your love tank empty or running low? Perhaps this is your call to take action? I invite you to love anyway—because it matters.
Let’s stay connected. Admittedly running on empty—spiritually, physically, emotionally, mentally or perhaps relationally, is a big topic. How can I best support you? You can help me write my next article by sharing any questions or comments you have. Please accept my invitation to email me at CoachMaggie@calledtoaction.com. If you don’t mind and to help others as well, I’ll share your questions/comments and my response. We are better together!
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