Relationships take work. As much as we all may like them to be a breeze and be enjoyable all of the time, they’re not. They can be testing, they can be intolerable, but if you’re willing to work at them, they’re the best part of living. Being in love, finding your soul mate, and spending your love with someone is such an incredible part of life. So much so that it’s very easy to believe that things should just happen naturally, or they should be easy. But relationships never are. You have to work at them to get them right. However, that doesn’t mean they are impossible to enjoy.
When it comes to getting your relationship or even making sure you start a new one on the right track, you’re going to want to make sure that you do a few things. Because you can read all about the perfect relationship as much as you want, but if you’re not willing to work at it, nothing will change. Be willing to change your mindset, actually take some steps toward making your relationship work, and have some patience, as it won’t change overnight. And when you’re ready to do all of that, working through these seven steps with perseverance at hand, will be fruits to your marriage and yes, your life.
Willingness To Make It Work
So first of all, we’re going to address that mindset. Because if you find yourself constantly thinking that your relationship is doomed, that you can’t fix the arguments, it will never work—guess what, it will all come true. However, when you change your mindset and come to the decision that you actually want to make it work, you’re going to have a much better outlook at making it happen. So. it’s time to get yourself into God’s frame of mind.
Next, you’re going to want to both commit to making things work. It can’t just be a one-sided thing, otherwise nothing will ever change. You both have to take the right steps to making this happen. Whether that means trying the make her love you for life program or making a compromise. When you both commit to trying and commit to working at the marriage, this is when peace begins to rise.
A huge part of any successful relationship is respect. If you don’t respect each other, then you may have a hard time making things work. It’s important to respect each other’s opinions, rights, and desires. Space too! When you’re both respectful partners in this marriage, you will find that you have very little friction, and that’s something we all want.
Trust + Honesty
Alongside that, you have to make sure you’re honest with each other. Trust is a huge part of making things work. This means trusting each other in everyday life, staying faithful, being honest about money—being honest about everything. Hiding things from each other isn’t what a relationship is about. You’re a team, and trust and honesty is the key to making your team a success.
Taking An Interest In Each Other
It may sound a little obvious, however, it is still an incredibly important part of making your relationship work—and that’s having an interest in each other. If you have absolutely no common ground, you may struggle to make this work. However, there’s no excuse for losing interest if you both love each other and want to make this work. So take an active interest in each other’s lives, and days. It’s a small gesture that can have powerful results.
Enjoying Your Time Together
From here, you should also make sure you actually enjoy spending time together. And this isn’t just about enjoying being in each other’s company, although that is part of building a strong relationship. What we mean here, is to actively ensure that you spend some time together. Have a movie night, get dressed up and go out to dinner, or head on a vacation. Do what you need to do to strengthen that bond and enjoy your time together.
Intimacy + Love
And finally, you have to make sure that you’re continuously working on the intimacy, passion, and love within your marriage. Never let the fire dwindle. Show each other how you feel and how much you care. And, always take steps to ensure that you can enjoy intimate time together. Cuddling, holding hands, and kissing counts here too. Generally being close to each other and expressing your love will put you in good spirits and help make things work. And remember, love is a choice… an action word. Show your love and always, always… pray for God to move mountains within your relationship. Those who authentically seek, will find.