Having your man propose can be one of the happiest occasions in your life (assuming you want to say yes), but it can really put a dampener on things if you don’t like the ring he proposed with. While you may be unlikely to turn down a chance at a lifetime of happiness with your partner over a piece of jewelry, the fact than an engagement ring is something all your friends and family will be looking at in the wake of your engagement, and which you are probably going to have to wear all the time for the rest of your life, means you should have something you like. Of course, you don’t want to hurt his feelings or put a downer on an otherwise happy moment, but there are ways of suggesting that you’d like a different ring if the one he proposed with isn’t in keeping with your taste.
It’s Probably Not a Big Deal
The first thing to remember is that it probably isn’t a big deal to say you’d like to exchange the ring. While in movies men fall in love with a ring and are sure it is perfect for the woman they want to give it to, in reality he probably wasn’t all that sure about his choice to begin with, and all he wanted was to find a ring you’d love. He probably isn’t as attached to what he chose as you might imagine, so broaching the subject shouldn’t be as daunting as you might feel. The fact you said yes is all he is likely to be interested in, so saying the ring isn’t exactly what you want shouldn’t be a big deal. The only time this is likely to cause offense is if you don’t like the ring because it isn’t expensive enough. The best thing to do in that situation is say that you love that he spent what he had on a ring for you to mark your engagement but that longer term, when you can afford it, you’d like something else.
Suggest Something You Like More
The best way to broach the subject can often be to show him an idea of rings you prefer, so when he returns the original, he knows why you didn’t like it and doesn’t feel bad. Look at the rings at ascotdiamonds.com for some ideas.
When Size is The Issue
If the ring is nice but completely the wrong size, then there is no reason to be offended—it’s not like if he bought you a dress in the wrong size because nobody really knows how ring sizes work until they come to buy one. If the ring is one from a line at a jewelers then you can probably simply exchange it for one in your size, but if it is a one off like a vintage ring or one that has been passed through his family you will need to get it adjusted by a jeweler. This is usually very simple if the ring is only one or two sizes too big or small, but if it is much too small it may be a problem and a different ring may need to be considered.
It needn’t ruin your happiness when you are newly engaged if the ring you were presented with didn’t appeal, so simply talk it over and show him some rings you like better, or arrange a resize.
Paola Ramirez
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