Dealing With Divorce: Can It Run Smoothly?

Dealing With Divorce-Can It Run Smoothly-Chispa MagazineRelationships age with time, and as a result motivation gets old and sadly breaks down. Getting your relationship back on track is not easy. We highly recommend and believe in marriage mentors walking along your side, as well as pastoral counseling. We also believe till death do you part, but sometimes a relationship finishes due to abuse, whether it be physical or mental. Aside from destroying your vows before God, yourself, and others, divorce is a stressful process that can easily turn into a war. Getting entrenched in a war is not what either party wants. Can divorce run smoothly? Perhaps, if both keep the following active and most of all, maintain in prayer and petition.

Start As You Mean To Go On
The first conversation is vital. Even though it might seem like the only option, divorce can still come as a shock, and it hurts. The resulting conversation, therefore, will dictate how the rest of the process plays out. If it is amicable and adult-like, there is every chance that your divorce will be, too. But, if it is a battlefield from the beginning, the odds are the misery will only heighten over the coming months.

Get A Good Lawyer
Lawyers are vital because they understand the legal process. You cannot do this by yourself as divorces are convoluted and complicated, which is why you need a professional. Don’t think of it as trying to get the best lawyer to get the best deal possible, think of it as getting the best lawyer possible to get the best deal possible for both of you. A good lawyer will take your needs into account when they begin mediation and litigation.

Also, top law firms have certain criteria that allow divorce proceedings to run effortlessly. Outofcourtsolutions.com has an Out Of Court Solutions Doc Prep so you can work out which is strategy is best for your divorce.

It’s Your Divorce
However, some law firms do see the dollar signs when they take on new clients. As they take a percent of winning, the more money you make, the more money they make also. That attitude can be destructive. You can start to make decisions that you wouldn’t normally make because of pressure from your legal team. As a result, your divorce becomes a battle between you and your significant other. Let yourself and your legal team know that this is your divorce, and you will handle it the way you see fit. The more you and your partner can come to arrangements out of court, the better it is for everyone.

Kids First
The reason you don’t want to take your partner to the cleaners is because of the children. The kids have to come first, and that means making sacrifices you might not like. If you were a child, would you like to see your mom or dad on their knees financially? No, of course, you wouldn’t. Plus, any animosity will surface through the kids. When people start to play the blame game, it could land firmly at your feet. Try and split everything evenly, so the children see both their parents weekly in a healthy environment.

Divorces can easily spiral out of control. For the sake of you and your family, don’t allow it to happen and take the high ground.

Photo by Azrul Aziz

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Mia Guerra

Mia Guerra

Executive Editor at Chispa Magazine
Executive Editor at Chispa Magazine, Mia Guerra is a writer at heart. Regardless the topic, she loves to investigate, encourage, and ruminate on topics that can make us better people. Aiming to live a Proverbs 31 life, Mia is ecstatic to be following her calling with Chispa. At home she is her husband's sidekick and together they are raising a God-fearing family in Atlanta.

Mia Guerra

Executive Editor at Chispa Magazine, Mia Guerra is a writer at heart. Regardless the topic, she loves to investigate, encourage, and ruminate on topics that can make us better people. Aiming to live a Proverbs 31 life, Mia is ecstatic to be following her calling with Chispa. At home she is her husband's sidekick and together they are raising a God-fearing family in Atlanta.