Where there is love, there are fights. However, too many fights can negatively affect a relationship. Hence, it’s wise to act like adults and sort out the differences that caused the fight. Most of the times, these differences are trivial. What some people may be able to work on is avoiding discussions that lead up to a fight in the first place. For girls who are struggling to avoid these fights with their boyfriends, here are some particulars to keep in mind. By honing these factors into their behavior, you may not have as many unnecessary fights anymore.
Listen. The most important aspect of any relationship, be it personal or be it a professional one, is communication. Proactive communication has been declared the most key element for success, right from a school of fish to a multinational company. An essential part of proactive communication in relationships is listening. Speaking to one another and not paying attention to what the boyfriend has to say does nothing while resolving arguments. Every girl is entitled to getting her opinion across, but she must also pay attention to her boyfriend’s side of the story as well. It is great when there is an agreement on both taking turns to talk. When one person is talking, the other should always listen.
Never make false threats to the relationship. Do not treat each and every fight as if not resolving it would cause a break in the relationship. Fights are small arguments that in essence are truly inconsequential. Turning these small fights into threats of ending the relationship is first of all immature. Secondly, these false threats can go horribly wrong! Your boyfriend may get offended and end it all himself.
Focus on resolving arguments, not winning them. More often than not, you would expect your boyfriend to accept defeat in an argument. Girls, however, need to take the responsibility of resolving the issues from time to time, and try to resolve problems. Be it searching phrases such as romantic nicknames boyfriend over Google, to give him a funny name while calling to sort matters out, or writing an explanatory message; you must take the initiative at some point of time. After all, boys feel pain too, and girls should understand.
Avoid raising voices. One more significant tip on how to avoid fights in a relationship is to not raise voices while arguing. Everyone at some point in their lives has been guilty of raising their voice, but it does not do the argument any good, rather it makes it more difficult to resolve. If the girl starts shouting, and the boy too starts shouting, soon enough, there are two people shouting without any actual communication happening. It is hard to keep anger levels in check, but it is important to try because it is the only way to make sense and move forward.
A relationship is successful only when both the involved parties want to make it work. If both of them actively decide that they don’t want to fight, they won’t. Since women are the ones steering most relationships, matters become better when women take the first step.
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