Maintaining a healthy long-term marriage isn’t always easy, sometimes it can seem impossible. The main problem for many couples in long-term relationships is that after a few years, their sex life changes.
This can happen for many reasons: a lack of excitement, diminished sex drives, and daily life getting in the way. While it’s normal for sex to become a less frequent part of your relationship, you should still be having sex on a regular basis.
If it has gotten to the point where you and your husband rarely have sex, then you might be feeling concerned about what this means. Try not to panic, this mainly happens because you have been together for a while and lack of sex doesn’t necessarily mean there is a problem with your marriage.
Don’t worry, you just need to find new ways to get your husband back into bed. To help you do this, we have put together some tips for helping you build an intimate relationship with your partner, once again.
Talk to them about it. It might be a little uncomfortable, but if you don’t talk about it, you won’t be able to deal with the situation and move on. Sit down with your husband and share how you are feeling about the lack of intimacy in your relationship.
Tell your partner how this makes you feel, and share why it worries you. Ask your him to talk about how he feels about this and what their thoughts are on why you no longer have sex. It will probably be a hard talk to have, but it’s worth discussing things so that you both know where you stand.
Give your bedroom a makeover. Sometimes, the reason behind the lack of intimacy in a marriage can be as simple as the fact that your bedroom lacks romance. If this is the case, give your bedroom a makeover and transform it into a romantic retreat.
Paint the walls, invest in a new bed, invest in luxury bed linen from Richard Haworth, and make your bedroom as romantic as possible. If you aren’t good at designing rooms, it might be a good idea to consult an interior designer for some ideas and advice.
Spend more time together. If you don’t spend much time together, this could be why your relationship lacks sexual intimacy. Often, when people in relationships stop spending time together, the quality of their relationship is affected, along with their sex life.
Set aside some time each week when the two of you can spend time together. Perhaps you could have a night each week where you go out together and spend some quality time as a couple? Or maybe, once a month you could spend a weekend away at a fancy hotel? It doesn’t matter what you do, just as long as you are spending time together.
It might be a hard topic to deal with, but because you value your marriage, it’s worth talking about. Sex is an important part of marriage; it promotes intimacy between you and your husband and it makes your relationship stronger and healthier.
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