When you dreamt of finding your prince charming, you probably didn’t imagine him to be a military man. You probably never pictured yourself as the military wife, sitting at home awaiting your husband’s return. But love has its humor…
It might not be the life you dreamed of, but there are many perks to being a military wife. You will have the support of a whole community, lots of friends living close by and the chance to travel to exotic places.
Of course, marrying into the military does have it’s downsides. You husband will most probably be away a lot on deployment, which means you may not see him for months at a time. It can be hard getting to grips with the fact that the person you love is so far away, especially when you are missing them like crazy.
However, that being said, if you love someone, you love them, and whatever life throws at you, you will take. If you love your husband, you will be willing to make the sacrifice of being a military wife for him. It might be hard sometimes, but it will be worth it.
Just because your husband is away a lot, that doesn’t mean you can’t have an amazing marriage. It just takes a little more work; that’s all.
Make the Most of Your Time Together
Whether it’s a few days or a few weeks, always make the most of the time you have together. Don’t spend your time together arguing, spend it showing each other how much you care.
Plan dates, go on day trips, have movie days—spend as much time together as possible. If your husband has a few weeks off, plan a getaway abroad and spend some quality time together.
Keep in Touch
Depending on where your husband has been deployed to, keeping in touch can sometimes be tricky. However, it’s important that you make the effort to keep in touch as much as possible.
Talk on the phone, send texts, email, write letters, FaceTime—find ways to keep in touch. It might be hard being apart, but by keeping in touch with each other it will be easier to cope.
Being apart from someone you love is difficult, and if you’re not careful it can really get you down. You might be missing your partner like crazy, but don’t hide away from the world, keep busy instead.
As a military wife, your own career is often put on hold. Especially, if you move around a lot. But that doesn’t mean you can’t keep busy. Apply for jobs that will allow you to telecommute. Keeping busy with work is one of the best ways to keep your mind off of your man.
Live in a Military Community
Living as part of a military community, like at Ultris Arrow Canyon, will make being apart from your husband easier. There are lots of fun things and social events going on, and lots of other military wives to socialize with.
It can be hard explaining to a non-military friend what life as a military wife is like, as they don’t really understand. But living as part of a community where everyone is the in the same boat, will make life as a military couple much easier to deal with.
Give Your Husband Time to Adjust
After returning from deployment, don’t expect too much from your husband. If he has been on a hard or dangerous mission, then it might take him some time to adjust to civilian life. Don’t rush him, make sure to give him the time he needs.
Marriage, in general, is hard work, but military marriages are even harder. The key to a successful military marriage comes from being loving and supportive of each other, no matter what. Being apart can be hard, but like the saying goes: Absence only makes the heart grow fonder.
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