How to Deal with the Unexpected

Life is full of ups and downs. One minute everything is great, perfect in fact, the next the whole world has shifted on its axis, nothing is the same. An unexpected event can have many different faces. It could be the sudden death of a loved one, your company going broke, meaning you lose your job, and you may be the main breadwinner, or you could get the terrible news that you have cancer. Whatever the event, there are certain things you can do to protect yourself mentally, emotionally, and financially. 

Think before you act. It is easy to fly off the handle, go into a depression, or isolate yourself when something bad happens. But, what you need to do is rationally think deeply about what has happened. If you are coping with the loss of a loved one, it is wise to come to terms with your emotions privately. Do not go down the hospital and start raging at the doctors and nurses. You will not be the only one suffering, and making a situation like this about you will only serve to make it worse. If the unexpected event is financial in nature, for example, you will need to come up with a plan of action. It is unwise to react on instinct. First, contemplate all the possible aspects and nuances of the situation. So think before you do anything. Come up with some sort of resolution or acceptance in your head before making your next move.

Accept that things are going to change. Depending on the circumstances, you have to be aware that your life will be different from now on. Sometimes life gets completely turned around, and you have to wake up to the reality, and the quicker you do this, the better you will be. For example, you may be forced to let go of things you longer need. A hard one to let go is your home, you may have to sell your house for capital to get you out of a hole, and trying to cling on to it will only make things worse for you and your family. So accept the situation, and know that things will change. But change is not always necessarily bad. In fact, life could be so much better once you have accepted your fate and released the negativity.

What things are in your control. You may want to come up with a plan to organize the things that are in your control. You could, together with your partner, or friends and family, think of a plan of action. A strategy of how you will proceed. If you have had an accident or an injury, you may be thinking of ways you can get compensation. If so, speak to Robinette Law’s personal injury attorneys and get some legal advice, you may end up with a lawyer who is willing to take on your case and fight for every penny you are owed. Coming up with a plan will help you get back on your feet mentally and emotionally. It will give you focus and may help you in the long run too, by providing you with some valuable coping mechanisms. At this point, it may be worth your while thinking about backup plans and backups to your backups, where you visualize how life could be, and if all else fails, you have that to fall on.

Stay positive. You could choose to see this event as an adventure,  a lesson in life, a journey of self-discovery, or of spiritual growth. Things happen. Nothing at all is set in stone. This could be the thing to make you as a person. Bad things happen to good people, and it is up to you to how you deal with it. If you are struggling, don’t isolate yourself, you could discuss issues with close friends and family, or even get in touch with help groups online or visit a help center. You are not the only person going through whatever it is you are going through. Someone else out there completely understands how you feel. And know this, when you come out of the other side of the life-changing event that you have been suffering with, you will be a better and stronger person. The knowledge you will have gained from this experience could be valuable to other people, so don’t keep it to yourself. You could write a book about it or start a focus group. Life is your oyster.

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Mia Guerra

Mia Guerra

Executive Editor at Chispa Magazine
Executive Editor at Chispa Magazine, Mia Guerra is a writer at heart. Regardless the topic, she loves to investigate, encourage, and ruminate on topics that can make us better people. Aiming to live a Proverbs 31 life, Mia is ecstatic to be following her calling with Chispa. At home she is her husband's sidekick and together they are raising a God-fearing family in Atlanta.
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Executive Editor at Chispa Magazine, Mia Guerra is a writer at heart. Regardless the topic, she loves to investigate, encourage, and ruminate on topics that can make us better people. Aiming to live a Proverbs 31 life, Mia is ecstatic to be following her calling with Chispa. At home she is her husband's sidekick and together they are raising a God-fearing family in Atlanta.