Nobody wants to split up with someone they love dearly. However, just like that famous Spanish song by Willy Chirino: Lo que está para ti, nadie te lo quita. Getting someone back after they have decided to leave can be very difficult. They obviously spent a lot of time considering their options before ending the relationship, which means you need to change their entire perspective if you want to welcome them back with open arms; and perhaps, change you, too. Read some of the ideas below and try to apply them to your situation. They should help you to make a start at the very least; just bear in mind there are no guarantees.
Follow the no contact rule. When someone leaves you, they probably aren’t in the right frame of mind to talk too much. Lots of people need space in that situation. Some experts recommend using the no contact rule to get your ex back, but it doesn’t always work. If you’re meant to be together, time apart will make you miss each other. Presuming your relationship was doomed from the start, being apart will simply reinforce their views. It’s a double-edged sword, but one that you’ll probably need to consider.
Write them a letter. Everyone knows how easy it can be to become heated and start arguing on the telephone. The same often happens when you see each other in person. However, writing a letter will allow you to use all the right words and let them know how you feel. Maybe you wouldn’t stop nagging at your partner about something silly in the past? Perhaps you didn’t make enough time for them while you were together? The letter is your opportunity to apologize and ensure they know you miss them dearly.
Try relationship counseling. There are lots of professionals who provide relationship counseling to people in your position. So long as you can convince your ex-partner to give it a try, you might see some good results. Of course, you’ll have to pay for the service, and so you need to make sure you are 100 percent committed to getting back together. Otherwise, you’ll just waste money and time on something that is not going to improve your life.
Arrange a date night. Sometimes getting back to basics is the best way to convince your ex-partner to come home. Arranging a date night like you did all those years ago is always sensible. Maybe you could go back to the same restaurant you visited the first time you went out together? That should bring lots of pleasant memories back. You could also try something completely new if you feel it would work. The decision is down to you.
We hope you manage to get your ex back and put your life back on the right track. However, some people are not meant to be together, and you need to accept that. You will live a miserable life if you chase people who don’t care enough. It’s important you understand you are better than that.
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