Dr. Paulette Kouffman Sherman, psychologist and coach who specializes in helping career women create balanced, whole romantic relationships is the author of When Mars Women Date: How Career Women Can Love Themselves Into the Relationship of Their Dreams and The Mars Women in Relationships Workbook. She sits with the Chispa team and dives into answering the multitude of questions regarding why women don’t believe their men appreciate them or why men forget to be romantic. While putting our voices at ease, Sherman redirects our questions and begins story time. We attentively lend our ears:
“Right before this roundtable, my husband was giving our two kids a bath. I heard him speak quietly as he brushed my three year old daughter’s hair and she whined. “Just stay still. See. Soft, soft,” he said. He spoke to her in sweet soothing tones as he toweled them both dry. I heard my daughter say, ‘I love you so much daddy!’ Then he called me, “Paulette, can you put some clothes on her?”
I rise from my pending writing assignment to meet our daughter at the changing table, thinking: Well, at least he’s helpful, not hopeless. I sometimes think our romance has waned since kids and sometimes he won’t pick his clothes off the floor, but the fact that he’s such a hands-on-loving-dad gains him a lot of points. And on those days that I need to focus on bringing home the bacon, even though he does that too, he’s willing to fry-it-up-in-a-pan and lets me read The New York Times.
In the past, women have chosen men who made them laugh, drove great cars, and who were very ambitious. But I’m here to say that nurturing may well be the new sexy. Career women will often even choose it over British Crown jewels, like the Star of Africa diamond, because it’s the one gift that keeps on giving. And love, unlike money, is truly priceless.
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Dr. Paulette Sherman
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